Fretful

I am a worrying parent. That is no secret to anyone who knows me, and it's no secret to me. As I mentioned a few days ago, I started looking for a kindergarten for our Dandy at least 9 months in advance. As I mentioned yesterday, I practically had Andy in the ER for an appendectomy, and it turns out he is fine. (I packed a suitcase that night. Really. I have ridden to the hospital in an ambulance with him, wearing pajamas and without ANYTHING to comfort him or me. I have never been that unprepared again.)

I have told you that I worry so much about Rose being able to stay at her school. We love it SO MUCH.

They called today. She had intentionally bitten someone. By the time I got there, again, they had analyzed it: it's 100s day and very overstimulating. The little girl (victim) next to her was hyper and annoying. Rose doesn't know how to communicate well enough to negotiate. Biting is a primitive response to being overpowered. I appreciate all the comfort they tried to give me. But some things are just completely unacceptable, and biting is one of those things.

It is very discouraging.
I again had to lean on my teammates. I again had to leave very abruptly and my students' behavior is reflecting this unpredictability. I had to explain why I was leaving to my colleagues. I feel embarrassed, angry, panicky, discouraged.
Should I excuse this because of the DW? Is it just her Taurean personality? Is it both? Should I put her back into a weighted vest? Back into private OT as well as her school therapy?

I want her to be happy, contributing and accepted.